Tim McGraw Talks Faith, Forgiveness, and How he Would Answer PeopleWho Have Problems With Octavia Spencer Playing God In “The Shack”
Country singer/actor Tim McGraw has spoken at length about his troubled upbringing — being raised by a bipolar man whom he thought was his father and then accidentally discovering during his adolescence that his biological dad was former New York Mets pitcher Frank “Tug” McGraw, who initially rejected him and then finally accepted him as his son.
McGraw, who turns 50 this year, credits the love of his family (his wife is country music artist Faith Hill) and their three children along with his faith, for giving him a remarkably happy and blessed life.
In addition to being a chart-topping musician —he’s won three Grammys, 14 Academy of Country Music awards, 11 Country Music Association awards and more — he’s also a respected actor.
While many fans recall McGraw for his breakthrough performance as an abusive father in the 2004 film adaptation of the bestseller “Friday Night Lights,” McGraw reveals that he owes much credit of his acting career to fellow thespian Rick Schroder, who convinced him to play a sheriff in his 2004 independent film, “Black Cloud.”
The tall and rugged-looking Louisiana native admits he initially was hesitant to detour from his successful music career for the unchartered waters of Hollywood, but he was flattered by Schroder’s determination to get him onboard his film. After that, it was McGraw who doggedly pursued filmmaker Peter Berg to convince him to allow him to audition for “Friday Night Lights.” McGraw’s performance in that film proved that he wasn’t just another popular and gifted music artist with an inflated ego but a serious actor with chops.
McGraw, who lives with his family on a ranch outside of Nashville, spoke about his newest film project, the faith-based “The Shack,” a story of forgiveness based on the William P. Young bestseller. He plays the best friend and neighbor to Mack (played by “Avatar’s” Sam Worthington), a man who lost his young daughter to a kidnapper while they were on a family camping trip and he is unable to overcome his grief and beef with God for allowing the unthinkable to happen. As Willie, he tries to console his grieving friend, and even offers to join him on a soul-searching trip to the shack where the battered body was found months earlier. On his solo quest, Mack rediscovers his faith through the mysterious discovery of three strangers and ultimately finds a way to forgive. The drama, directed by Stuart Hazeldine, also stars Oscar winner Octavia Spencer, Radha Mitchell and Alice Braga.
Q: Family oriented roles seem to be a lot closer to what you’re playing these days. Are there parallels to that and your music?
McGraw: I’m always searching for big (and universal) themes that you can just reach outside the norm of what you’re doing. I’m very family-oriented. I’ve always been family-oriented. I came from a disoriented, dysfunctional family growing up. That probably instilled in me the need and want to have a strong family and a great foundation. That’s something I naturally gravitate towards. (I’m) just looking for a great story that moves and inspires you in a way (that) I want to be impacted viscerally.
Music and movie scripts are books. You want to be literally moved and that’s the sort of things I look for. When I read the script of “The Shack,” I had not read the book. My wife actually had the book on her nightstand. We’d heard about the book and knew what the story was. About a week after she put it on her nightstand, they were sending me a script to read. I read the script and was completely in an emotional meltdown.
I told Faith about it and we had a lot of conversations about whether I had time to be involved because it was shot in Vancouver, and I was doing concerts and flying at 3 a.m. I was working all day, flying to do shows. Finally, we just had to do it.
Q: Does this movie create the space and environment to go on one’s own journey to find peace and reconciliation in his faith or life?
McGraw: Let me offer a little bit of insight into it as a tool. I need to get those insights for tools; because I don’t think that the universal themes of love, compassion, and forgiveness (are present). (You’re) searching constantly for the next step, the next level and consciousness in your spirituality, who you are as a human being and what you contribute to society or what God means to you is always a course everyone goes on.
This movie does this, regardless of what your belief system is. It offers a view and perspective to you, that can open the door a little bit to think about what in your life has broken you? What in your life propels you forward? What in your life allows you to give up to other people, and allows you to forgive others and accept forgiveness. This movie can be a cracked door with a light behind it for a life that may need it.
Q: Are there are times in your life when you’ve said, “God, why have you forsaken me?”
McGraw: Most of the time I ask, “Why have I forsaken God?” I look at myself and ask that question when probably the better question is to say, “Where are you God, and I’ll let you in.” Instead of thinking that you’ve abandoned God, push yourself in the other direction like, “God, how can I get closer?”
Q: Did you find the role of Willie easy or difficult to slip into?
McGraw: Certainly, there’s a weight on when you go into something like this, and a responsibility that you feel. However, I think for me, what I found was, “Who would I want in my life at this particular time?” You can try but you can’t communicate what happened to this family. You can’t go into it and put something together from your life that can match the tragedy that happened to this family. You can find parallels to your life where you’ve gotten lost. (There are) parallels where you’ve gotten off track or you feel like there’s no way you can dig yourself out. You think that you can’t find redemption in any way. For me going into this, I really wanted Willie to be a conduit for Mack. I wanted him to be somebody he could walk behind, almost like a seeing-eye dog in a lot of ways to help him navigate.
Q: You take on emotional, spiritual and intellectual roles. Does it feel the same way for music? Do you get the same feelings from them?
McGraw: I do. Music has to hit me in a visceral way. Sometimes I think as an artist you tend to go toward the heartbreak and the sadness because those are the deepest and heaviest emotions you can pull out as an entertainer and as a singer. Everybody loves a sad ballad because it’s cathartic. For artists, in a lot of ways, that’s sort of our therapy sessions is when you’re singing a song. But, yeah, music has to do that for me. And sometimes it’s big themes, which I’m always looking for big themes in a way to transcend just a love story or just a fun party song. You try to find something that will connect people in different ways. This film certainly does that.
Q: Is there anyone waiting for your forgiveness?
McGraw: Oh gosh, I think there are more people waiting to forgive me than I need to forgive them. (He laughs.) I look at things a lot differently than that. If there are, I hope that I can discover it and I hope that I can put my finger on it and hope that I can get it. I try to give as much blanket forgiveness as much as possible in my life because that’s the only way you can get past things and move forward. But, conversely, I’d like to be forgiven. In many ways, that’s the bigger leap, the bigger transformation and the bigger step forward.
Q: How would you answer someone who questions how God is portrayed by Octavia Spencer in this film?
McGraw: I would answer it, “We don’t know.” I don’t know. I know if I told you what God looked like and felt like then I’d be telling you a story. I just think we don’t know. God manifests himself, herself or itself in a way that we need it, in a way that we can grab a hold of and a way that we can put our arms around. When I die and I’m lucky enough or fortunate enough and brave enough throughout my life to get into Heaven and I see Octavia Spencer sitting there then all is good. (He laughs.)
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SOURCE: Knoxville News Sentinel, Special to USA Today Network – Tennessee – Angela Dawson